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“Worldwide, an estimated 2 million trafficked children are forced into prostitution, including up to 300,000 of whom are spread throughout every state in the United States. Tragically, reputable hotels often serve as the setting for their exploitation.” Jennifer Milewski Can something as simple as … soap … be used to help children escape child trafficking? YES … and, here’s how. Read this! https://www.sistersofmercy.org/blog/2019/10/11/soap-lifeline-trafficking Blog Contributor: By Jennifer Milewski ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Please talk to your small children, now! "The Promise Book; Tell Someone www.thisisdebbiebarth.com Author Debbie Barth knows the trauma of child abuse. She wrote her book as an aid in which to help parents talk with their children about child predators in a way that won't scare or intimidate a child. We need to get to our children ... before ... the predators do.
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There are so many stories to be told. So many young … innocent … boys and girls … who have experienced the heinous acts of sexual predators, at some point in their lives. But there are still so few that come forward to speak of their experiences, the trauma, the loss of innocence, or the struggles they continue to have. And … the sexual predators … continue to maintain their power.
I came across Joe’s story, the other day. I contacted him. He was gracious enough to allow me to share his story in my blog. I am honored by his trust and confidence in me. I am grateful that he is willing to share so that others may also find the strength to come forward. The only way to take the power away from the predators is to talk to our very small children about predators … and, for those unfortunate to have experienced sexual molestation … in any degree … to … tell someone. I am always here to listen. Below is Joe’s story. I have not altered or edited anything below. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Joe Lovell May 18 at 6:04 PM · I needed to take time to get my thoughts together before trying to put this into words. In the past I haven't always practiced patience. Yesterday I read a post that sent forty-five years of bad memories in motion. The post was regarding the death of someone that made a significant impact on my life, and it was most definitely not a good experience. I don't recall the exact month, but in 1972 I was molested. Unfortunately this wasn't the first time. Two years earlier, during the sixth grade, I was the target of a pedophile that lived in our community. By the Grace of God a family member showed up before the sicko could get any further than pulling my pants down. I was terrified and crying but he quickly made me believe it was my fault and I would be in big trouble if I told anyone. I would later learn this is how they operate. I never said anything to anyone, then it happened again two years later. I was walking home from work one night, yes, I was already working in the eight grade, when another adult male stopped and offered me a ride home. Why would I think twice? He was a cop! Once I was inside the car he reached over and put his hand on my crotch. At first I froze because I couldn't believe what was happening. I then moved his hand. A few seconds later he grabbed me again. I again moved his hand and told him to stop and let me out. Nothing else was said and I didn't tell anyone. Who was going to believe a cop, a Vietnam vet and married father of two would do such a thing? Some time later there was a lot of talk around the neighborhood. It was clear this was his regular practice. I still kept it to myself, mostly out of shame. Well into my late twenties I was visiting with my mother when she told me the first individual had died of a heart attack. It wasn't until that moment that I told her what had happened, but I still didn't say anything about the second time. She was shocked but then understood why I never wanted to go fishing with him again. I carried a lot of grief and shame for a long time. Those two events made me doubt myself. I kept wondering why was this sort of behavior coming from grown men. As I grew up I had very few male friends. Heck, to this day I have very few male friends. The experiences left me unable to trust men. There was always the little kid in me afraid they had an agenda. I gravitated to women which was just fine with me. A few years ago I ran across a Facebook post from the same cop that had been molesting God only knows how many young boys forty years ago. After I made contact I asked if he was the same person that was a patrolman when I was growing. Not only did he confirm, he started hitting on me in the chat. I wanted to puke! At that point I asked if he was still a pedophile and roaming the streets for young boys. Crickets! He disappeared and he never contacted me again. When I heard he was dead, it opened a flood of bad memories. It was especially heartbreaking to learn his behavior went on until 1987 when there was at least enough evidence to get him off the police force. I have since read transcripts of what led up to his dismissal. Actually, he resigned rather than appear in a hearing and have to take the stand to save his job. That speaks volumes! Not only was this pervert a policeman and in a controlling position of authority, he was also deeply entrenched with the Boy Scouts. I dread to think about how many young boys were victims. The transcripts also details the Boy Scouts investigation and his removal. I am sharing this for one reason and one reason only. I know there are thousands of others that need to speak up. There's no reason the victims should carry the burden. Our communities are littered with pedophiles that continue to get away with it simply because the victims believe the lie. If you have been a victim of pedophilia, or know someone that has, please speak up. These sickos do not stop unless the get caught or die. Debbie Barth is the author of the book … “The Promise Book; Tell Someone www.thisisdebbiebarth.com There are always signs children display when being molested, presently (as well, as in past events.) Please understand that not all signs may be displayed … and, there may be others. My point is to be aware of the signs and the actions of your child. It is important to consider the possibility of sexual abuse when the child: • Has difficulty walking or sitting • Demonstrates bizarre, sophisticated or unusual sexual knowledge • Becomes pregnant or contracts a venereal disease, especially if under the age of 14 • Complains of pain/itching in the genital area • Has torn, stained or bloody underclothing • Displays drawings or writing that may have strong or unusual sexual themes • Repeatedly attempts to run away from home • Is overly mature in appearance or behavior • Expresses that s/he or another child is sexually involved with an adult Often, behavior problems at school can be indicators of some form of abuse. For example, the child may: • Be inhibited, shy, withdrawn and have extreme difficulty making friends or establishing peer relationships • Be hyperactive, especially in younger children • Exhibit signs of depression through such indicators as low self-esteem and suicidal or self-injurious behavior • Begin to bed-wet, especially in younger children • Be extremely promiscuous, especially between the ages of 11-13 • Act without seeming regard for personal safety and self-respect • Begin abusing drugs and alcohol (even in younger children) • Suddenly refuse to change for gym class or to participate in physical activities • Begins to violate the law However … one of the most important steps you can take … before a sexual predator can get to your child … is … to talk with them about child predators at the earliest age, possible. My book … “The Promise Book; Tell Someone” … makes it easier for parents. www.thisisdebbiebarth.com Reference: https://www.ci.oakdale.mn.us/DocumentCenter/View/328/Predatory-Offender-Community-Notification-and-Education-Packet-PDF?bidId= Debbie Barth is the author of the book … “The Promise Book; Tell Someone www.thisisdebbiebarth.com A very sad day for any parent with children in day-care schools. A woman was arrested in a child-pornography case, in Greensboro, North Carolina. Parents, we can only do so much to keep our children safe, but every little bit helps. Don’t take for granted that people who work in day-care centers have been thoroughly checked out. I would hope this is the case, but apparently, in this case … she either … was not checked out thoroughly … or … this sick behavior began after she was hired. We all need to be vigilant … ask questions about who is working at these day care centers … ask if a thorough background check has been done on each one. Drop in occasionally … unannounced, if at all possible. And, if you have a “feeling” something might not be right … don’t ignore that feeling! And … please … talk with your small children as soon as possible! I guarantee you that child predators count on getting to your children, before you do! Ref: myfox8.com Click link to read article: https://myfox8.com/2019/04/05/woman-who-worked-at-greensboro-church-day-school-arrested-in-child-pornography-case 4/5/2019 8:50 pm Debbie Barth is the author of “The Promise Book; Tell Someone www.thisisdebbiebarth.com There are no definitive physical attributes that singles out child abusers. There is no nationality, no race, no gender. And, there is no occupation which clearly defines them. In fact, certain occupations may help child abusers shield them … from… suspicion. For, example … being a trusted Superior Court Judge. Parents … as much as we try to protect our children … unless we sit down and speak with them about child abusers, the dangers, how to stay alert … we can be letting them down. We need to make sure they know that … no matter who it is … family, friend, relative, neighbor, or stranger, or the situation … our children know they can come directly to us for support. We can never just … assume … they will. And, we can never assume that every person who is … in a “position of trust” … is trusting. As … in this very real case … of a Superior Court Judge. Click on link, below, and read article. https://myfox8.com/2019/04/02/former-north-carolina-superior-court-judge-charged-with-sex-crimes-against-a-child 4/4/2019 2:54 pm Debbie Barth is the author of “The Promise Book; Tell Someone www.thisisdebbiebarth.com Don’t think these people exist? Then read about the woman who was charged for selling her 2-year-old daughter to a man. This man lives (or lived) in Houston, Texas. It’s sick … it’s depraved … and, unfortunately … this is not as uncommon as you would like to think. According to court documents this started last year with an investigation by the Montgomery County DA's Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force. They intercepted a woman named Sarah Peters who was heading to Conroe "who agreed to allow an adult male to engage in sexual intercourse with her two-year-old daughter in exchange for $1,200." We need to be vigilante. We need to inform our small children about child molesters … instill their trust in us, as parents/guardians … and, yes … be very selective about our friends. And … we all need to step out of our comfort zone, and … get involved! I honestly believe that someone close to her knew what that mentally, unbalanced, woman was like … and, should have told someone. If you see something or hear something … report it! http://www.fox26houston.com/news/woman-charged-with-selling-2-year-old-for-sex-leads-police-to-accused-child-molester Reference: Fox26Houston.com Contributor: John Donnelly, FOX 26 New ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 4/01/2019 4:21 pm ET Debbie Barth is the author of the book … “The Promise Book; Tell Someone www.thisisdebbiebarth.com Sick ... so very sick. All the lives are now ruined and/or will never be the same. This "mob rule" ... hazing ... anything goes" is sick ... sick .... sick!
I don't care how young you are or how old you are ... who in their right mind thinks it's ok to take a broomstick and shove it into another person. And, the defense attorney is saying "it is a tradition ... gone too far." For real???? Parents ... PLEASE ... talk with your children about child predators and sexual violations against their bodies ... at the earliest age possible! There is no guarantee that your children ... will never suffer this ... will never be a victim ... or ... will never be the person who is doing the assaulting. Children need direction! Especially, in this very sexualized world, in which we are now living! Please ... talk to your children! www.thisisdebbiebarth.com Credit: Fox News https://www.foxnews.com/us/maryland-hs-football-players-face-life-in-prison-for-alleged-locker-room-attack Debbie Barth:11/28/2018 at 3:40 pm ET © All rights reserved Debbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. The book is available on Amazon and at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com Marcia Virginia Trimble was a 9-year-old girl who disappeared on February 25, 1975, while delivering Girl Scout Cookies in Green Hills, an affluent area in Nashville, Tennessee. Her body was discovered 33 days after her disappearance, on Easter Sunday, near the Trimble family home. She had been sexually assaulted. The case went unsolved for 33 years. While this was over 43 years ago … this, unfortunately, wasn’t the last time a child has gone missing, and later, found dead. It happens … all too often. The circumstances may be different, but the loss of an innocent child still shocks us all, and tears at the heart of their families. Children should feel safe selling cookies, Christmas wreaths, Discount Books, etc. door-to-door. It’s a wonderful way to teach them about business and interacting with customers. Children should feel safe, walking in the neighborhood. But children should also be armed with the knowledge they need, in an effort to keep them safe. Parents, please talk to your children about child predators. Tell them to never go inside ANYONE’S home without your knowledge … or … when out, going door-to-door … in a school or group activity. Simply saying it’s because “you said so” or … “there’s bad people out there” … is not enough. They need examples of why you feel this way. They need to know what can happen. They need to know that they do NOT go into a house, a garage … and, most definitely … not a car … at any age … without you having prior knowledge. Marcia Virginia Trimble … left home to deliver Girl Scout cookies. She never came back. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/man-indicted-in-1975-girl-scout-murder Debbie Barth:11/12/2018 at 5:30 pm ET © All rights reserved Debbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. The book is available on Amazon and at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com While, individually, the following behavioral traits do not mean an adult is a child predator … a combination of certain behavioral traits do need to, seriously, send up red flags.
Predators will often use teasing and demeaning words to laugh off, or deny … a child from setting boundaries in physical closeness. Predators will insist on touching, hugging a child, even when it is clear the child does not want the attention. Many predators will use “tickling” or “wrestling” “games” to get physically close to a child. Predators may make a habit of “accidentally” walking in on a child who is in a bathroom, or a room, where the child may be changing clothes. While it may be just “misguided” parenting … predators do allow, if not encourage … children to get away with inappropriate behaviors. If he/she seems “too good to be true” … then, more than likely … he/she is. This person may want to babysit, frequently, without pay, or likes to buy an excessive number of gifts, gives them money … or likes to take them out, often … on “special outings,” … alone. Lastly … and, this is most certainly something I can attest to: He/she points out sexual images and makes suggestive, vulgar jokes with children present … and … will expose the child to adult sexual interactions or images, without concern for the child’s presence. And … heed this … they are overly interested in the sexuality of a particular child or teen. (ie, a female child’s developing breasts, etc.) Debbie Barth:11/07/2018 at 3:49 pm ET © All rights reserved Debbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. The book is available on Amazon and at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com Did you know it is against the law to choose not to report child sex abuse?
This means that if you are in a position where you learn of a child being sexually abused, and for whatever reason you choose not to report it, if later on the abuse comes to the surface and the offender is prosecuted, you could be held liable for negligence. Know also that the law varies in some states and is dependent upon the circumstances involved. Child sexual abuse is a prevalent issue in the United States. Varying statics site as much as one in four girls and one in six boys are sexually abused before age eighteen. Molestation is sexual abuse that comes in different forms. It involves consistent sexual contact with a victim that is usually an acquaintance which includes touching, sexual suggestion, pornographic materials, threats … and, intimidation, resulting in touching and penetration. The shocking truth is that children are more likely to be abused by a family member, or someone they know who is close to the family… than a stranger. It is most difficult when the molestation is intra-familial. The burden placed on the care-taker is the struggle between forgiving the predator and quietly keeping the betrayal within the family walls … outwardly denying the claims made … or … calling the authorities and having the claim investigated, with the possibility of possible prosecution. It becomes, in reality … a choice between the predator … or … the victim. The choice … undoubtedly is a difficult one … either way. So, why not choose the right one? Protect and support the victim. Ref: http://www.childrefuge.org/child-molestation/intra-familial-molestation.html Debbie Barth:10/25/2018 at 1:31 pm ET © All rights reserved Debbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. The book is available on Amazon and at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com A Fort Worth pimp known as “Zigg” has been sentenced to life in federal prison for sex-trafficking children in a statewide operation that existed for more than a year. He and other co-defendants provided cellphones, rooms, lubricants and condoms, and used threats of violence, sexual assault and intimidation to control the victims, according to federal prosecutors. Some of the young girls were recruited on Facebook and Instagram. Child predators, pimps, and child traffickers are no longer limited to a certain locale in their hunt for vulnerable small children and teenagers. The internet has given them a world-wide audience in which to find and trap their prey. The predators use social media sites to seek out young and impressionable children, offering them jobs as models or a part in a movie that doesn’t exist. Predators feed on the insecurities and naiveté of the young, and … are experts at manipulation and entrapment. Predators start with the very young. As a parent … so should you! I suggest you talk to your children about child predators at the earliest age appropriate for your child. Explain what a child predator is and where they can be found. Explain to your child, the methods often used by a child predator. Knowledge is the best protection you can give your child. Ref: https://www.star-telegram.com/news/local/community/fort-worth/article215978610.html 
Debbie Barth is the author of “The Promise Book: Tell Someone.” Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. According to the National Child Abuse Coalition.org, below are two impacts of child abuse. I should know. I experienced them.
I know that I initially made very good grades in schools … and, then … I wasn’t. I remember my elementary school so much more vividly than any other grade-level. I remember the smells in the class rooms of chalk, crayons, and books. I remember sitting with schoolmates in the cafeteria, making faces … swapping foods …and, the chatter. I remember running in the playground, playing Red Rover …sharing secrets with friends … and, the laughter. I don’t remember, however … the exact date … it stopped. I don’t remember the date I started making average grades (if that good.) I don’t remember when the school became less a place of learning, games, fun and friendships, and more of a place of solace and retreat. I don’t remember when I stopped wanting to share … “secrets” with my friends. I can’t remember when I felt more in control, when alone. I can't remember when I started feeling inadequate or taking offense at anything someone said … and, striking back at them … often, much to their surprise. I can’t remember the date I placed an invisible shield around me. I do remember … it wasn’t long after … the sexual abuse started. Ref: https://nationalchildabusecoalition.org Debbie Barth:8/01/2018 at 3:53 pm ET © All rights reserved AuthorDebbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. Occasionally … I will present statistical information concerning child predators. I actually prefer to blog actual events and/or my thoughts. I prefer this rather than statistics because I think we, oftentimes, become bogged down with the numbers and become desensitized from the actual effects of child sexual abuse. The victims are more than just numbers. With that said, I have found a website that has some vital information and statistics that I feel is important to share. The National Center for Victims of Crimes is a website of which I will be drawing some of my future information. I hope that my followers, many of whom are victims, will visit this website … draw from the information given …and, by all means … become involved, should you choose. Below are a few statistics that may surprise you:
The above statistics have been obtained from the National Center for Victims of Crimes. I am not associated with them in any way. I am only a “reader” and hopefully … you will be, as well. http://victimsofcrime.org/media/reporting-on-child-sexual-abuse/statistics-on-perpetrators-of-csa Debbie Barth: 8/07/2018 at 5:25 pm ET © All rights reserved AuthorDebbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. Consider the recent Hollywood incidences … Weinstein, Cosby, the Allison Mack sex-trafficking/sex labor scandal … and, the recent number of illegals who have been detained for crossing the border with children not their own, with the intentions of selling them. Unfortunately, I believe people are getting “use” to these … revelations. But, people may still be surprised if they knew who were the most trafficked children in America. According to the FBI and the Washington Examiner … the vast majority of the children trafficked in the U.S. are not Mexican or Central American, but are American. The article I am referencing was written 3 years ago. Of course, the stats for 2018 will not be known until, 2019 … but what do you want to bet … it’s gotten worse?! According to Jenny Gaines, who worked at Breaking Free, (at the time of this article) a Minnesota-based advocacy group that helps former sex workers, girls are manipulated and taken advantage of as early as age 12 … before being trafficked. According to then Assistant Director of the FBI’s Criminal Investigative Division, Joseph Campbell … potentially hundreds of thousands of children are being sexually abused in pedophile rings across the U.S. In large states where homelessness has increased … so has the number of children molested, and trafficked … because they are so vulnerable to their environment. According to Statista.com, between 2008 and 2016 the number of human trafficking victims identified … worldwide … more than doubled from 30,961 to 66,520. But, the number of small children who are being molested, groomed, and trafficked are much higher than what “stats” tell us. We are not hearing from so many children who are being molested by a family member … a friend of the family … someone from their school … or someone from their church. Child predators know how to manipulate children into silence. And, way too often people “suspect” something is wrong … but … say nothing. And … this … is the power that arms the child predators. That power of silence. Even if it wasn’t true that pedophilia, molestation, and sex-trafficking were on the rise (and, they are) … the fact that it happens at all can be devastating to our children. I urge parents to talk to their children at a very early age. I urge people who suspect child abuse (of any kind) to speak up. This is how we stop child predators … we speak up for our children … and, we teach our children to speak up for themselves … knowing … someone … will be there to listen … and, to support them. Ref: http://www.washingtonexaminer.com/fbi-epidemic-levels-of-pedophilia-child-sex-trafficking http://www.humantraffickingsearch.org/top-3-states-for-human-trafficking http://www.statista.com/topics/4238/human-trafficking Debbie Barth:8/01/2018 at 5:10 pm ET © All rights reserved AuthorDebbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. SOCIAL MEDIA SITE HAS TO … ASK … IF PEDOPHILES SHOULD BE COMMUNICATING WITH CHILDREN ON ITS WEBSITE?7/31/2018 I do get why social media sites regularly send out surveys to their users. Surveys allow the media sites the ability to create programs which draw new users and maintains current users. On the flip side, it feeds the “collective thinking” mentality which is festering in this and other countries. But … what does it say about our social online communities when the need is felt to ask users how they feel about pedophiles asking children for sexual pictures? This was asked in a survey created by Facebook employees. In 2016, an investigation by the BBC uncovered numerous private Facebook groups by and for men with a sexual interest in children to share images, with one run by a convicted pedophile. Photos of children taken from their parents' Facebook accounts have also been found on pedophile sites. In 2017, the BBC flagged dozens of images and pages containing child pornography. Of the 100 reported images, 18 were removed by Facebook, according to the BBC. At the time, the BBC said Facebook asked to be sent examples of the images and then reported the broadcaster to the child exploitation unit of Britain’s National Crime Agency. I find the ineptness of Facebook employees to find and weed out pedophiles, a little more than just … disheartening. And, for there to be any question as to whether or not pedophiles should be allowed groups, comments and/or to ask children for sexual pictures is way beyond bizarre. But, this is the world we live in, today. Child predators, pedophilia, and sex trafficking is not going away. In fact, it seems to be on the increase. And, social media has, indeed, become a conduit for deviant and depraved activity. Unfortunately, children are easily lured into their web. Most parents think this could not or would not happen to their children. And yet … many of those same parents have never sat down and had a serious talk about child predators with their small children. It is time … it is past time. When social media asks users about whether or not known pedophiles should have … any … communication with children … the warning is ever clear, obvious … and, foreboding. Ref: https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2018/03/05/facebook-asked-users-if-pedophiles-should-able-ask-kids-sexual-pictures/395535002/ Debbie Barth: 7/31/2018 at 3:33 pm ET © All rights reserved AuthorDebbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. Here we go again. More proof that there is not one “face” to a child predator. There is not one occupation … nor one race or gender … where child predators and other sex offenders do not dwell. A recent crackdown in Columbia, South Carolina led to the arrest of 38 sex offenders. According to the article referenced below, at least one individual admitted to having 5,000 pictures of child pornography in possession. Some of whom were arrested were sex-traffickers. Some, were so-called ‘travelers’… people who go from area to area looking for victims. Parents, please don’t read these stories, shake your head, and think your child would never become a victim. The parents of these victims probably thought the same thing. While you cannot protect your children every minute of their lives, you can do everything possible to make them aware of the dangers of sexual predators. I’ve heard parents say they just “cross their fingers and hope it never happens to their children.” It’s simply … not enough. I encourage parents to talk to their children … at the earliest age possible … about child predators. Start the discussion in a way that will not confuse or scare them. They need to know about child predators … and, equally important … children need to be told that whatever the circumstances of a possible assault … they are loved, will be heard … and, supported … no matter the circumstances. Start the conversation early in their lives. Get to your child … before … a child predator does. Ref: https://www.wfmynews2.com/article/news/local/theyre-just-monsters-38-arrested-in-sc-child-sex-sting/83-577699268 Debbie Barth: 7/27/2018 at 1:36 pm EDT © All rights reserved AuthorDebbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them. I can’t speak for all who have suffered sexual abuse as a child … but … I do feel this will resonate with many.
I have had the need for control, to the point of which I was sometimes puzzled. I don’t mean “control” over someone else … as much as I do … control over what affects me. I have always had to lock my bedroom door … yes … all of my life, even now. I also have to have some light in my room … even bedroom … while sleeping. I always felt I had to be in control of relationships. I needed to be the one to call it off before someone else did. I was my own worst enemy. I needed space … lots of space (and, to some extent … still do) in a relationship. I hate being lied to or manipulated. I’m sure most people do. But with me … it’s something that can break a relationship, no matter how small the lie or innocent the “manipulation.” For years, I was very guarded in my personal and my business relationships. I did not allow people to get too close. It’s really too bad, because I believe I missed out on so many wonderful people. And, I know that I have, intentionally and unintentionally … hurt a few … on the way. Why am I telling you this? Because, I believe that much of this was brought on by sexual abuse, as a child. I believe there are many others who recognized this in themselves. A child most often feels helpless, and confused when abused, especially if it’s someone they know. Especially, I feel, if it’s an authority figure in their life. A child can become so overwhelmed by this feeling of having no control in these situations … that lack of control can later become … an obsession … for control. I admittedly still do have some control issues … overly cautious when out alone … locked doors … lights, etc. … but now … because of the wonderful people who surround me … including my very patient and tolerant, sweet, generous, (and funny) husband … I welcome new friendships, and I cherish those around me. I hold them close to me. I am blessed. But … I know there are many who never quite get through their anguish, frustrations, lack of self-esteem … and, uncommon need for control. I am writing this for them. I want them to know what they are feeling is not uncommon. I’m hoping they will seek help and will open their hearts to others. I want to make it clear that I do not feel everyone who shows signs of “needing control” have been sexually abused as a child. That would be a fallacy. I am saying that the “need for control” is something that does arise, often-times, when someone has been abused. And … I am hoping that parents with children will talk with their children … at the earliest age one feels appropriate … about child predators. I am hoping that, if you see this … it will give you a glimpse of what their lives could be … if the child predators get to them first. I am hoping that parents make their children aware that they can come to them … about anything … and anyone … who attempts to touch them in ways that are not appropriate or that make them uncomfortable. To arm your children with knowledge and security … is to disarm the child predator. Stormy Daniels is strutting around as if she were a glamorous movie star. The truth is … she is a porn star who makes money by getting naked and having sex with multiple people on camera. Off camera, she sells her body to men. There is nothing glamorous about giving control over one’s body to someone else, for money.
Stormy Daniels is holding interviews and stating that the reason she is doing this is because she wants to “get the truth out to the American people about Michael Cohen and her alleged affair with then, business man … Donald Trump. The truth is … the majority of Americans … don’t care. Even the Globalists, anti-Trumpers, Establishment, and Democrats really don’t care … about her. They care about finding some way to bring our President down. Stormy Daniels claims to be an advocate for “women’s dignity” in her “line of work. The truth is … there is no dignity is selling one’s body for profit. There is no dignity to be had in the sex-trade industry. One of my friends recently made this comment, and I completely agree: “The Sex trade is a euphemism for exploitation of the vulnerable and powerless. It's really a form of slavery where other people make the money while women and girls are used for the basest instincts of men...cowardly men. It's not okay to own people and it's not okay to rent them either.” The majority of prostitutes are young runaways ... kids who have been kidnapped or coerced into this industry. Kids who end up with STD(s) and drug habits. Kids that live in rat-holes and are thrown away by pimps or sold to another pimp. They are young people who are lied to and told that making porn films is a legitimate why to get into films. Instead … these kids are subjected to degradation, abuse, and gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, and AIDS,. Young women frequently become pregnant and have multiple abortions. Stormy Daniels would have people believe that only the rich and powerful buy prostitutes, and that all prostitutes are going on European trips with their rich “john” and are lavished with expensive jewelry and clothes. I say this, based on her demeanor, in public. I would say the distinction is that the above are “kept” women, and not … the reality for most in prostitution. And, the majority of the men are the usual, middle-to-low income guy who is taking away from the household budget to get serviced. The reality is that Stormy Daniels is a woman who is trying to get out of a disclosure agreement so that she can write a book. The reality is that the left is using her (a way of life for her) to try to impeach this President. That’s it. Well, except for the fact that Stormy Daniels is trying to legitimized being a porn star as a dignified profession by demanding America give her the respect she feels she deserves. As far as I am concerned … she is getting … and, has always gotten … the respect she … deserves. She is influencing and misleading our youth into believing that being a porn star and in the sex trade, is indeed respectful … and glamorous. And, I would be willing to bet that some, will fall for it. The kids today are already exposed, at a very early age, to sex. Kids are engaging in sexual acts at an earlier age than ever before. Of course, they will see her as some kind of super star. This…and, the fact that prostitutes are victims and need help getting out of this industry …is what upsets me the most. I am including a 2015 article, found in Huffington Post. It was written by Marian Hatcher. She is a sex-trafficking survivor. So, you don’t need to take my word for how I feel about the sex trade industry … read her story. Know the truth, as I see it. Thank you for reading my blog, today. If you like the vibe … please subscribe! www.thisisreallydebbiebarth.com Debbie Barth: 4/17/2018 at 5:30 pm EDT © All rights reserved Your child is at the mall, at a friend’s party, or … on the play-ground. A man or woman approaches and says “You look so pretty. You are beautiful. You could be a model.” Do you think your child would fall for that? And, do you think your child might … at that moment … go with that person?
I know the inclination would be to shake your head vehemently, and say … “of course not.” But are you really sure? Let me ask you a question. Have you sat down with your child and talked to them about child predators? I don’t mean as a passing comment or a direct command of “don’t talk to strangers.” I mean really talk to them. And … how often have you spoken with them about child predators? Lastly … when did you start the conversation with them? The child predators start talking with and grooming children at a very early age. It’s really up to parents to talk with them first. By the time they are teenagers and influenced by their peers, singers and movie idols … don’t you really think that some teenagers (obviously I’m not saying all) might be tempted to follow someone who says … “I can put you in videos and make you an overnight sensation” … seriously? And, the predators mean it … but … not in the way a teen would think. The children in this video below (click link) are not always from low-income families, aren’t always runaways, or children from other countries. It could happen to any child. And, we know … all … children are precious and shouldn’t never have to endure something like this. Parents, please, start talking with your children just as soon as you believe they can comprehend … and keep talking to them! They need to be aware of the danger. But, even more than that … they need to know you are there for them and will support them, and … that they should alert you at any sign of danger, no matter the circumstances … or even … who the individuals, involved are. My book, “The Promise Book; Tell Someone,” aids parents in talking with their smallest of children about child predators, in a way child can understand …and … that doesn’t confuse or frighten a child. Please find my book at Amazon.com or my website … www.thisisdebbiebarth.com. While you are there … be sure to read my “Tell Someone” blog. The stories … sad and heart-wrenching … are true. The link to the video you must see … is: http://wreg.com/2018/02/12/human-trafficking-targets-children-in-the-mid-south/ Thank you for caring … and sharing! Debbie Barth: 2/13/2018 at 01:11 pm EDT © All rights reserved I'm sitting here, listening to the ladies who were aspiring gymnasts and were sexually abused by Larry Nassar ... and, shaking my head. My heart breaks for this ladies, and, yes ... a part of me is angry. Sexual predators like Larry Nassar should burn in hell. One of the things each girl repeated time and time again was ... he (Larry Nassar) was so respected ... so ... his "treatments" ... while uncomfortable and sexual in nature ... must be alright. The ladies all said they were "young ... and didn't actually understand they were being molested." The parents are asking themselves ... "how could this happen without me knowing?" Unfortunately ... I hear this all the time. My answer would be ... that the children honestly didn't understand they were being molested ... (especially in this sexualized social climate.) And ... children do not tell there parents everything ... especially if they have been traumatized. While we may never stop sexual predators ... I believe we can slow ... them ... down. Please ... parents .... TALK to your young children about child predators. Make sure they know that no one should touch them in private areas. Let them know that they can come to you and tell you if something is wrong ... no matter who it is that has touched them or made them feel uncomfortable. Make a promise of love and support for each other. My book ... The Promise Book; Tell Someone ... makes it much easier to talk to your small children. Simple text, and beautiful illustrations will help your children understand your message, without confusing or scaring them. There is a promise at the end of the book ... that is meant to express the love for one another and a bond. My book is in Amazon and at my website. www.thisisdebbiebarth.com She had finished waiting tables for the night and was asked to go to a party. She hardly knew the people, but … she thought, “Why not?” The “party” was a small group. The alcohol was in copious quantities. She noticed one man staring at her. She knew him by reputation. He was “bad news.” He walked over and made conversation … getting much closer than he needed. He declared to the group that he was … taking “this one” home. She looked around for the people who brought her. They were gone.
She hid in a closet. He found her. No one seem to notice. No one seemed to care about this 15- year-old girl. He grabbed her arm and put her in the car. He said she was being silly. He liked her. He wouldn’t harm her. He said he wanted her to meet a friend of his, who worked late at night at a radio station building. He would show her around. The building was dark, with the exception of a few lights. There was only one person in the building. She wasn’t quite sure what he did, but he was happy to help “show her around.” The “tour” was short and ended up in a room with a sofa. The man who brought her, raped her first. He told her that screaming would do no good, no one would be able to hear her. Besides … the other one was waiting his turn, right outside the door. When it was over they took her home to the trailer she was sharing with another girl. Then, they drove off. She knew where to find the man who took her from the party. He was always at one particular pool hall. She also knew where the gun was that her roommate had in a nightstand by her bed. She walked into the pool room. He saw her and stopped laughing with his friends. He continued playing pool, but never seemed to take his eyes off of her. She looked into the bag she was carrying and touched the gun. She looked at him. And, then … she turned around and walked out of the pool hall. It was one of the better decisions she had made that day. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Many children choose to leave home because they want to escape sexual abuse … only … to run right into it, all over again. I believe that these are children who felt they could not tell someone they were being abused, didn’t think they could trust anyone, or … they were ignored. Parents have got to pay attention to their child and to the signs of child abuse before the child runs away. No fifteen-year-old should be left on their own. The story above is a true story. This story could have an even more tragic ending. But with the Grace of God … she walked away. By doing so, she gave herself a gift of time. Time to get through the life she was living. I urge parents to talk with their children as young as possible … about child predators. I urge them to look for the signs. And, I urge everyone to please … don’t … look the other way when a child needs you. You are setting them up to make some very bad decisions. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Debbie Barth: 08/10/2017 at 3:35pm EDT © All rights reserved Debbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book; Tell Someone. She is the host of On The Grid Internet Talk Radio, and is also an Ambassador for India Hicks. She had run away. She had run away … from … but not … towards … anything. So, she went home. The day after she came home, her mother said that the two of them were going to “talk with someone.” She told the young girl that “counseling” would be a good thing. She said that it would be good to “talk through” whatever it was that was making the young girl want to run away. The young girl thought maybe … just maybe … she could finally tell someone the dark secret that made her stomach churn and that caused her so much confusion and unhappiness. It was if she was living two different lives, not knowing which one was the reality of life. They sat in a small room … the mother, the young girl, and the woman. The woman stared at the young girl and asked several questions, often repeating a question, with her voice becoming colder, harsher, with each question. Why had she run away … why was she so unhappy … again … why did she run away … why … why … why? The time had come. The young girl thought, finally … she could tell someone. She braced herself and said … “Because my step-father is touching me.” The woman looked at the young girl and asked, “Would you be willing to repeat that in court?” The young girl replied, “Yes, he has been touching me for years.” The room became very still. It was so quiet the young girl could hear the unevenness of her own breath. Finally, the truth was out. Now, maybe she would not have to face each day with dread. Now she would be safe. The woman looked over the young girl’s head and to her left, where the mother was sitting. The woman said …. “I think she needs some “cooling off.” The only thing the young girl heard from her mother, sitting behind her … was … “Yes.” The young girl new something was wrong. Something was … very wrong. The next thing she knew, she was taken to a room. It was explained to her that she would be staying there for a while until she “settled down.” Her mother had stayed behind. The young girl stood there and stared at the woman, who backed out, slammed the door, and locked it. Her mother had taken her to a Juvenile Detention Center. There had never been an intention to help the young girl … only to silence her. Even the woman who locked her up didn’t care. No one cared. As the young girl sat there on the small bed, looking at the door that had just closed, she wondered which made the loudest sound, the door slamming … the sound of the lock … or … that one word spoken by her mother … “Yes” … the sound of a mother’s betrayal. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ There are many reasons given for a mother turning her back on her own child. The easy one is that the mother just can’t believe it. Often, the reason is “financial.” Sometimes, there is genuine fear of her boyfriend or husband. Maybe there is no “support system” or no family of which to turn. It can also be as petty as “What will people think?” Whatever the reason may be … it’s not good enough. It’s never good enough. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Debbie Barth: 08/07/2017 at 3:00 pm EDT © All rights reserved AuthorDebbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book; Tell Someone. She is the host of On The Grid Internet Talk Radio, and is also an Ambassador for India Hicks. According to www.childpredators.com: When compared to girls who are sexually active with boys near their own age, these girls(those who have been sexually abused) are more likely to:
Trust me when I say … I didn’t need to double-check these statics. There will be women who read this, and know how true this is. This is the profile for young girls who have been sexually abused. Anyone you recognize? If so … reach out to them. Or … we can, as parents … sit down with our children … as soon as possible … and, talk with them about child predators. We can, as parents … let them know that no one has a right to touch them in private areas. We can, as parents … let them know we are there for them … we love them … we support them … and … that … they CAN “tell someone.” We can stop this … before it begins. AuthorDebbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book; Tell Someone. She is the host of On The Grid Internet Talk Radio, and is also an Ambassador for India Hicks. These parents talked to their children about “the bad guys” and, all the situations that could arise, on any given day. But, what their daughter did … surprised, even them. This is definitely something you will want to share with not only small children … but everyone. Read this! It could save someone's life. http://myfox8.com/2017/04/18/12-year-old-girl-stops-carjacker-from-abducting-her-little-sister/ Parents, please to your children at a very small age about the bad guys (in this case, a carjacker) who are out there. It’s not a pleasant conversation, and not an easy one to have. But, it is a necessary one to have. Children need to know what to do in different situations. In the case of child predators … my book is a great way to start. AuthorDebbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book; Tell Someone. She is the host of On The Grid Internet Talk Radio, and is also an Ambassador for India Hicks. You've taken every step to ensure your child's safety on the Internet. The computer is in a family room or high-traffic room, you've installed your parental filters and you monitor your child's online activity. But do you know what your kids are saying online? If you've ever looked over the shoulder of your computer savvy teen while he/she is typing, you've probably wondered, "What does that mean?" when reading their words. While some of these acronyms are basic and simply conversational, others are shocking and sexual. Keep reading, parents! This tip will help you decipher the lingo used to communicate over the Internet and in chat rooms, and help you protect your child from online predators. 2NITE = Tonight A/S/L or ASL = Age/Sex/Location AB = Ass Backwards ABITHIWTIDB = A Bird In The Hand Is Worth Two In The Bush ADR = Address AEAP = As Early As Possible ALAP = As Late As Possible ASAP =As Soon As Possible BEG = Big Evil Grin BF = Boyfriend BOHICA= Bend Over Here It Comes Again BTDT = Been There Done That BWO = Black, White or Other BYKT = But you Knew That CTC = Choking The Chicken CYT or SYT = See You Tomorrow DIKU = Do I Know You? DYFM = Dude You Fascinate Me EG = Evil Grin EWI = E-mailing While Intoxicated F2F = Face To Face GAL = Get a life GALGAL= Give A Little Get A Little GF = Girlfriend H&K or HAK= Hug and Kiss I 1-D-R = I Wonder IDTS = I Don't Think So ILU or ILY = I Love You INNW = If Not Now, When IPN = I'm Posting Naked IRL = In Real Life IWSN = I Want Sex Now IYKWIMAITYD = If You Know What I Mean And I Think You Do JAFO = Just Another F***ing Onlooker JT = Just Teasing KFY = Kiss For You KIT = Keep in Touch KOC = Kiss on Cheek KOL= Liss on Lips KPC = Keeping Parents Clueless KYPO = Keep Your Pants On LD = Long Distance LDR = Long Distance Relationship LMIRL = Let's Meet In Real Life LMK = Let Me Know LTR = Long term relationship LY = Love You M/F or MorF = Male or Female MOOS or MOTOS = Member Of The Opposite Sex MOSS or MOTSS = Member Of The Same Sex MOTAS = Member Of The Appropriate Sex MTF = More to Follow MUSM = Miss You So Much MWBRL = More Will Be Revealed Later NALOPKT = Not A Lot of People Know That NAZ = Name, Address, Zip NIFOC= Nude/Naked In Front Of The Computer NP = Nosy Parents OLL = On-Line Love OM = Old Man P&C = Private and Confidential P911 = Parent Alert PAL = Parents Are Listening PANB = parents are Nearby PAW = Parents Are Watching PM = Private Message POS = Parent Over Shoulder RFS = Really F***ing Soon RMLB = Read My Lips Baby RUMORF = Are You Male Or Female RUUP4IT = Are You Up For It SCNR = Sorry, Could Not Resist SITCOMs = Single Income, Two Children, Oppressive Mortgage SMEM = Send Me E-Mail SMIM = Send Me an Instant Message SNAG = Sensitive New Age Guy SO = Significant Other SOMY = Sick of Me, Yet? SorG = Straight or Gay? STM = Spank The Monkey SWAK = Sealed With A Kiss TAW = Teachers Are Watching TDTM = Talk Dirty To Me TIA = Thanks in Advance TIAIL = Think I Am In Love TILII = Tell it Like it is TMTOWTDI = There's More Than One Way To Do It TNC = Tongue In Cheek TNT = ‘Till Next Time TOPCA = ‘Til Our Paths Cross Again TOY = Thinking of You TTT = Thought That Too TWIWI = That Was Interesting, Wasn't It? WFM = Works For Me WIBNI = Wouldn't It Be Nice If WIIFM = What's In It For Me? WITFITS = What in the F*** is this Sh** WTGP = Want To Go Private? WTH = What/Who the Heck WTRN = What's Your Real Name? WUF = Where Are You From? WYCM = Will You Call Me? WYSIWYG = What You See Is What You Get http://childprotection.lifetips.com/tip/117365/lingo-for-parents/deciphering-code/mission-impossible-interpreting-computer-code.html Author Debbie Barth is the author of "The Promise Book; Tell Someone, Ambassador for India Hicks, and host at On The Grid Internet Talk Radio. |
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